After struggling with a case of writer's block, I dropped by my friend Kevin's blog this morning and was inspired. His topic was Following the Plan and he examines being a single student at the age of 29. It's funny how when we hit our late twenties people start to worry about settling down and being done with school because that is what is expected of them by society's standards. I see it in the same vein as married people being questioned when they will procreate. Quite frankly, I have to wonder why it's anyone's business. Personally, there are times when I regret not having finished my degree earlier in life because it isn't always easy being one of the oldest students in class and juggling a nighttime school schedule with a full-time work load. Ultimately, though, I'm doing it now and there are a lot of people who don't even go to college so right away I'm at an advantage. Also? I think I'm getting more out of my education as an adult than I ever would have as a self-centered gal in her early twenties.
I am a single woman on the verge of 30 and at times I feel like I'm on the brink of Old Maid status. However, had I married the man I thought I would have at the tender age of 24 I have a feeling my life would not be as happy and fulfilling as it is now. When I look at who I was then compared to who I am now, I'm a completely different person. Why the rush to marry in your twenties when people are living to their nineties? Why stay in a mediocre relationship just because you are afraid of being single in your thirties? At times I wonder if I'll ever have kids of my own but people are having children later and later in life so that comforts me. Hell, I don't even know if I want kids...
I guess what this all boils down to is that everyone should be able to march to the beat of their own drummer and follow their own dreams at their own pace without someone else giving them shit about it. What works for you doesn't necessarily work for me and that's that. So I'll leave you with the same question Kevin left his readers:
1) Did you follow “the plan” and are you happy, or did you follow it and regret it?
2) If you didn’t follow “the plan”are you happy that you didn’t or regret that you didn’t?